A few weeks ago when I was in New York for a weeks long visit, I must have seen a handful of close friends, old colleagues, and folks that I spent a good chunk of time reconnecting with for my job. During each of these conversations, an article that I had read in 2013, that was recently sent to me again by my best friend Bethany, kept having an appearance. The article is by Mark Manson and titled, "Fuck Yes or No". The general concept is that if you aren't saying "Fuck Yes" to whomever you are with, the answer is no. I think this dude is brilliant and incubated with some sort of genius and this philosophy, as simple as it is, is true and can be extended past romantic relationships, to friendships, to work, and to generally anything you have going on in your life.
I've been going through a lot cleanses lately. Cleanses of people. Cleanses of things. Cleanses of negativity. Cleanses of my body. Cleanses of things that just don't matter. And guess what? I feel fucking great. After I started cleansing, I realized that it was a zen-like experience that my life was calling for. By talking about this new "Fuck Yes" mentality with my friends and sharing my experiences, I've tried to inspire others along the way to do the same with their lives. I don't always have unerring sense of direction, but I like think that most of the time I make pretty logical assumptions, choices and decisions. I've clamored together a group of dear friends to keep a fluid discussion going on several case studies* I have been working on lately, as well as where they are in their lives, how they are feeling emotionally and physically, and with that, I am obsessed with motivating people to only pursue those "Fuck Yes" people, experiences and things.
Another thing I am also really interested in is training and getting in the healthiest state that I can possibly be in. With that- I have joined gym, gotten my own personal trainer (he's totally bananas, shows absolutely zero mercy, and likes it when I can't walk for two days), and I'm determined to achieve maximum health over the next few months. A gal that I work with is really badass; has two kids, has the most insane body, and is really all about living a wonderful existence. I've learned a lot from her in such a short amount of time and we've recently instilled a "FOCUS" chat that allows for us to really hone in on the best way to maximize ourselves, which will ultimately help us with maximizing ourselves for our work that we both believe in so dearly. I guess you can say all this "Fuck Yes" work is a collaborative hive of some sort, and it's veering me towards being this mega-cool team leader for my friends. I have photoshopped my own weekly e-mailer for about fifteen of my friends that have signed up to get healthy too, as a way for motivation (hit me up at email@example.com if you'd like to be included... we're going to be doing various activities in NYC over the next few months together)! I'm so excited that my friends are as interested in improving their well-being; for me, it's so much more fun doing things together, than alone. I usually can lead groups with aplomb, but sometimes all you need is to read an article where everything makes sense and you instantly start saying, "Fuck Yes".
Here's to health, happiness and focusing on the only things that matter. Fuck Yes.
*I like to run experiments. I'm obsessed with following the scientific method and then creating case studies based on my data. In case you have forgotten your 7th grade science class, steps include: question, hypothesis, experiment, analysis, accept or reject hypothesis, revise the hypothesis (rejected) or draw conclusions (accepted) and then I like to add "learnings" at the very end to help you become a better human... that's called progress, people.